Making Sense of Emotional Abuse in Intimate Heterosexual Relationships

How can (heterosexual and white) men talk about the emotional abuse in intimate relationships that they experience without losing sight of important gender differences? How can we frame what is happening to such men, the emotional and psychological violence they undoubtedly experience, while recognizing the historical, cultural, social, and political context of patriarchy, the inequalities […]

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Grammars of Social Bonding: Between Courtship and Tinder

In her book, The End of Love: A Sociology of Negative Relations, Eva Illouz dedicates one chapter to ‘pre-modern courtship’ and normative certainty, and traces its transformation towards sexual liberation and the collapse of the traditional certainty that courtship rituals enabled. Her book is partly an exploration on how relationships are formed in a context […]

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Ontological Uncertainty and Dating in a Harrowing Twilight Zone

Eval Illouz’s book, The End of Love: A Sociology of Negative Relations, is fascinating and thought-provoking on many levels. In her fourth chapter, “Scopic Capitalism and the Rise of Ontological Uncertainty”, she explores the ways in which sexual domination can manifest in “diffuse, elusive, and vague processes of devaluation of women” that more visible media […]

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